A Curious Eye

A Curious Eye

My name's Ben. I'm a 22 year-old recent grad living in Seattle. I've been told my gayness is only matched by my enthusiasm.
I post my favorite news from all around the web.
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Scientists Discover Shape Differences Between Faces Of Gay And Straight Men

Perhaps the most intriguing discovery in the mountain of data collected by the team is that the faces of gay men were consistently ranked as more masculine than the faces of straight men.

lolitabandita:

My photo project about gender presentation within the masculine and feminine spectrum. 

lolitabandita:

My photo project about gender presentation within the masculine and feminine spectrum. 

(via neutrois)

ot4s:

somebody doesn’t have to look completely androgynous in order to identify as genderqueer or nonbinary. somebody doesn’t have to look masculine or butch in order to identify as male. somebody doesn’t have to look feminine at all in order to identify as female. you can wear a dress and makeup everyday and still ID as male. gender expression is not the same as gender identity

(via gayqueers)

GENDER AND THE BODY LANGUAGE OF POWER— Philosopher Sandra Lee Bartky once observed that being feminine often means using one’s body to portray powerlessness.  Consider: A feminine person keeps her body small and contained; she makes sure that it doesn’t take up to much space or impose itself.  She walks and sits in tightly packaged ways.  She doesn’t cover the breadth of the sidewalk or expand herself beyond the chair she occupies.

GENDER AND THE BODY LANGUAGE OF POWER— Philosopher Sandra Lee Bartky once observed that being feminine often means using one’s body to portray powerlessness.  Consider: A feminine person keeps her body small and contained; she makes sure that it doesn’t take up to much space or impose itself.  She walks and sits in tightly packaged ways.  She doesn’t cover the breadth of the sidewalk or expand herself beyond the chair she occupies.

adayinthelesbianlife:

BUTCH: Not Like the Other Girls is a photo-based public art exhibition being displayed in transit shelters throughout Vancouver from March 11 2013 onwards. A gallery of the exhibition was also on display at The Clutch.
The exhibition is an exploration of female masculinity in contemporary communities. The images celebrate and honour the beauty and power of those who transgress the gender binary. S.D. Holman conceptualizes Butch, “not as oppositional to Femme and Trans identities, but as an inclusive site of resistance to limitations on the way women, gender and sexuality are still defined” (sdholman.com).
The images aim to provide an alternative representation of what it means to be female outside the culture’s narrow vision of femininity. The images serve as a mirror to those who are not represented in mainstream ideas about what it means to be a woman. They also aim to reach an audience that has little to no exposure to or understanding of Butch identities.
Read more.
adayinthelesbianlife:

BUTCH: Not Like the Other Girls is a photo-based public art exhibition being displayed in transit shelters throughout Vancouver from March 11 2013 onwards. A gallery of the exhibition was also on display at The Clutch.
The exhibition is an exploration of female masculinity in contemporary communities. The images celebrate and honour the beauty and power of those who transgress the gender binary. S.D. Holman conceptualizes Butch, “not as oppositional to Femme and Trans identities, but as an inclusive site of resistance to limitations on the way women, gender and sexuality are still defined” (sdholman.com).
The images aim to provide an alternative representation of what it means to be female outside the culture’s narrow vision of femininity. The images serve as a mirror to those who are not represented in mainstream ideas about what it means to be a woman. They also aim to reach an audience that has little to no exposure to or understanding of Butch identities.
Read more.
adayinthelesbianlife:

BUTCH: Not Like the Other Girls is a photo-based public art exhibition being displayed in transit shelters throughout Vancouver from March 11 2013 onwards. A gallery of the exhibition was also on display at The Clutch.
The exhibition is an exploration of female masculinity in contemporary communities. The images celebrate and honour the beauty and power of those who transgress the gender binary. S.D. Holman conceptualizes Butch, “not as oppositional to Femme and Trans identities, but as an inclusive site of resistance to limitations on the way women, gender and sexuality are still defined” (sdholman.com).
The images aim to provide an alternative representation of what it means to be female outside the culture’s narrow vision of femininity. The images serve as a mirror to those who are not represented in mainstream ideas about what it means to be a woman. They also aim to reach an audience that has little to no exposure to or understanding of Butch identities.
Read more.
adayinthelesbianlife:

BUTCH: Not Like the Other Girls is a photo-based public art exhibition being displayed in transit shelters throughout Vancouver from March 11 2013 onwards. A gallery of the exhibition was also on display at The Clutch.
The exhibition is an exploration of female masculinity in contemporary communities. The images celebrate and honour the beauty and power of those who transgress the gender binary. S.D. Holman conceptualizes Butch, “not as oppositional to Femme and Trans identities, but as an inclusive site of resistance to limitations on the way women, gender and sexuality are still defined” (sdholman.com).
The images aim to provide an alternative representation of what it means to be female outside the culture’s narrow vision of femininity. The images serve as a mirror to those who are not represented in mainstream ideas about what it means to be a woman. They also aim to reach an audience that has little to no exposure to or understanding of Butch identities.
Read more.
adayinthelesbianlife:

BUTCH: Not Like the Other Girls is a photo-based public art exhibition being displayed in transit shelters throughout Vancouver from March 11 2013 onwards. A gallery of the exhibition was also on display at The Clutch.
The exhibition is an exploration of female masculinity in contemporary communities. The images celebrate and honour the beauty and power of those who transgress the gender binary. S.D. Holman conceptualizes Butch, “not as oppositional to Femme and Trans identities, but as an inclusive site of resistance to limitations on the way women, gender and sexuality are still defined” (sdholman.com).
The images aim to provide an alternative representation of what it means to be female outside the culture’s narrow vision of femininity. The images serve as a mirror to those who are not represented in mainstream ideas about what it means to be a woman. They also aim to reach an audience that has little to no exposure to or understanding of Butch identities.
Read more.
adayinthelesbianlife:

BUTCH: Not Like the Other Girls is a photo-based public art exhibition being displayed in transit shelters throughout Vancouver from March 11 2013 onwards. A gallery of the exhibition was also on display at The Clutch.
The exhibition is an exploration of female masculinity in contemporary communities. The images celebrate and honour the beauty and power of those who transgress the gender binary. S.D. Holman conceptualizes Butch, “not as oppositional to Femme and Trans identities, but as an inclusive site of resistance to limitations on the way women, gender and sexuality are still defined” (sdholman.com).
The images aim to provide an alternative representation of what it means to be female outside the culture’s narrow vision of femininity. The images serve as a mirror to those who are not represented in mainstream ideas about what it means to be a woman. They also aim to reach an audience that has little to no exposure to or understanding of Butch identities.
Read more.

adayinthelesbianlife:

BUTCH: Not Like the Other Girls is a photo-based public art exhibition being displayed in transit shelters throughout Vancouver from March 11 2013 onwards. A gallery of the exhibition was also on display at The Clutch.

The exhibition is an exploration of female masculinity in contemporary communities. The images celebrate and honour the beauty and power of those who transgress the gender binary. S.D. Holman conceptualizes Butch, “not as oppositional to Femme and Trans identities, but as an inclusive site of resistance to limitations on the way women, gender and sexuality are still defined” (sdholman.com).

The images aim to provide an alternative representation of what it means to be female outside the culture’s narrow vision of femininity. The images serve as a mirror to those who are not represented in mainstream ideas about what it means to be a woman. They also aim to reach an audience that has little to no exposure to or understanding of Butch identities.

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(via mysocalled-gay-life)

Whenever I hear the label ‘straight-acting,’ I cringe, because to gay men, usually it really means ‘masculine-acting.’ Whenever ‘masculine’ is defined as ‘straight,’ that’s a form of internalized homophobia, implying that gay men can’t act masculine. Of course, there are plenty of masculine gay men, and there’s nothing inherently ‘straight’ about masculinity.
saltycoffee:

chiripepe:

here-lies-andalusia:


bearsimdisappointedin:



you know whats worse than tumbears? 
redditbears.



On one of the internet’s most popular, and notorious, sites, a new community is bringing together White gay men with old fashioned tastes internalized homophobia and a penchant for misogyny.
I fixed it.


Thank you :D

Slow the fuck down. This is more of this bullshit knee-jerk “masculine gay men interested in discussing manly stuff amongst themselves” = misogyny and internalized homophobia bullshit.
Uh-uh.
I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: To say that masculine gay men must have internalized homophobia is itself painfully homophobic; it implies that gay men are naturally more feminine than straight men, and to act otherwise would be to defy one’s true nature. While there is nothing wrong with being a feminine gay man, to assume that one gender expression is natural and the norm is wrong. If you are a gay man and believe this, you are not helping yourself. If you are not a gay man and you believe this, you are a shit ally and you need to stop. It’s not wrong for us to struggle against stereotypes, and one way for us to do that is to have the more masculine ones among us also point out that they exist. By showing that there is variety in our community, we allow ourselves to be seen as not just a cliche but actual humans by the world at large; not just the masculine ones, but all of us by virtue of the fact that now people know that they have to pay some fucking attention to actually know what we’re like before resorting to a tired cliche. “Maybe this guy likes drag and boxing! Maybe this one likes old cars and Cher. Maybe it’s he’s more feminine, maybe he’s more masculine, maybe it’s a mix, LET’S FIND OUT”
By the way, about the misogyny thing - and again, I’ve covered this before so sorry for people who follow me and have to see this again - labeling a lack of feminine traits and a desire to let it be known misogynistic is not only stupid but potentially damaging, because like the homophobia accusation you’re connecting the quality of enjoying stereotypically feminine pursuits with womanhood in and of itself. This is also wrong, as it reinforces gender roles. And nobody should be stuck in a gender role because that sucks ass.
 
By the way, I actually took a look at this subreddit and tried to find anything devious about it - maybe something condemning feminine gay men in there or something in the official rules and such.
What I found was this:

So uh. The people who run it pretty clearly are fine with having any given set of interests or being on any part of the masculinity-femininity spectrum, they just want to make sure the group stays on topic.
FEMME SHAMING! INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA! MISOGYNY!!!!11!!
(Side note: Is here-lies-andalusia implying that nonwhite gay men can’t be masculine? Because I’ve met plenty of guys down here who fit the “gaybro” mold and like a little time with others like them here and there. Hey, according to Redd’s standards even though I’m pale as fuck the fact that I’m Cuban makes me an oppressed PoC, so that must be embarrassing for them)

saltycoffee:

chiripepe:

here-lies-andalusia:

bearsimdisappointedin:

you know whats worse than tumbears? 

redditbears.

On one of the internet’s most popular, and notorious, sites, a new community is bringing together White gay men with old fashioned tastes internalized homophobia and a penchant for misogyny.

I fixed it.

Thank you :D

Slow the fuck down. This is more of this bullshit knee-jerk “masculine gay men interested in discussing manly stuff amongst themselves” = misogyny and internalized homophobia bullshit.

Uh-uh.

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: To say that masculine gay men must have internalized homophobia is itself painfully homophobic; it implies that gay men are naturally more feminine than straight men, and to act otherwise would be to defy one’s true nature. While there is nothing wrong with being a feminine gay man, to assume that one gender expression is natural and the norm is wrong. If you are a gay man and believe this, you are not helping yourself. If you are not a gay man and you believe this, you are a shit ally and you need to stop. It’s not wrong for us to struggle against stereotypes, and one way for us to do that is to have the more masculine ones among us also point out that they exist. By showing that there is variety in our community, we allow ourselves to be seen as not just a cliche but actual humans by the world at large; not just the masculine ones, but all of us by virtue of the fact that now people know that they have to pay some fucking attention to actually know what we’re like before resorting to a tired cliche. “Maybe this guy likes drag and boxing! Maybe this one likes old cars and Cher. Maybe it’s he’s more feminine, maybe he’s more masculine, maybe it’s a mix, LET’S FIND OUT”

By the way, about the misogyny thing - and again, I’ve covered this before so sorry for people who follow me and have to see this again - labeling a lack of feminine traits and a desire to let it be known misogynistic is not only stupid but potentially damaging, because like the homophobia accusation you’re connecting the quality of enjoying stereotypically feminine pursuits with womanhood in and of itself. This is also wrong, as it reinforces gender roles. And nobody should be stuck in a gender role because that sucks ass.

 

By the way, I actually took a look at this subreddit and tried to find anything devious about it - maybe something condemning feminine gay men in there or something in the official rules and such.

What I found was this:

So uh. The people who run it pretty clearly are fine with having any given set of interests or being on any part of the masculinity-femininity spectrum, they just want to make sure the group stays on topic.

FEMME SHAMING! INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA! MISOGYNY!!!!11!!

(Side note: Is here-lies-andalusia implying that nonwhite gay men can’t be masculine? Because I’ve met plenty of guys down here who fit the “gaybro” mold and like a little time with others like them here and there. Hey, according to Redd’s standards even though I’m pale as fuck the fact that I’m Cuban makes me an oppressed PoC, so that must be embarrassing for them)

(via mysocalled-gay-life)

15 Things Gay Men Need To Stop Doing

1) Having an irrational fear of effeminacy in guys. 

2) Describing yourself as “straight-acting.” What does that even mean?

3) Trying to fit some magical ideal of gay male beauty.

4) Using the world “masculine” as a primary self descriptor. Is there nothing else to you but that?

5) Using Grindr ACROSS MULTIPLE DEVICES.

Defining the new male ideal

As a professor for 17 years and counting, Addis has observed how the male college students in his classes have changed and adapted to shifting cultural norms. In recent years, more of them spend time in the gym, focus on their appearance and monitor body mass.

Most aren’t trying to lose weight — they’re documenting their physique, he said. It’s a far cry from the male celebrities of the 1950s — think Spencer Tracey or Robert Mitchum — who wore their heftiness as a sign of financial success or a way to demonstrate masculinity, Addis said.

He attributes the change to shifting gender roles.

"As women gain more financial power in society, men are expected to bring more to the table," Addis said. "In addition to being financially successful, they need to be well-groomed, in good shape, emotionally skilled in relationships and the emphasis on looking good is just part of the bigger package — the stakes have been raised."

Some psychologists and trend watchers said the male muscle obsession only grew during the last few years. As the economy struggled, men were sent looking for aspects of their lives they could define and control. Body image is, at times, the only thing.

Read More at CNN.com

The Good Men Project

Twenty-first century masculinity needs thought leaders. We are letting The Good Men Project community be those thought leaders.”



These folks support healthy masculinity. Love it! 

The “Sissy Boy” Experiment”

"Free Bitch Feminism- Post Feminism of Lady Gaga"

This in-depth article examines Lady Gaga as a feminist, how she performs and fucks with gender and sexual objectification. I’ve earned a new respect for Gaga after reading this.