But really.. I am so sick of cis folks - especially those in the queer community - who make trans* issues about themselves. It is all too common, and despite your so-called reasoning - nothing can rightfully justify your cissexist behaviour.
Cis folks: do us trans* folk a few favours, yeah?
- Sit down.
- Look at what you are doing.
- Think about it.
- Educate yourselves - without demanding or expecting OUR help. (Specifically take the time to look up ‘cissexism’, ‘cisgender privilege’, and ‘derailing’.)
- Lastly, do not insert your ignorant opinions on legitimate trans* issues that involve our safety and well-being. Hell, do not insert your opinions on trans* issues at all - unless we ask for them.
If you find that you are unwilling to do these things, because (insert bull shit reasons), then you are most likely ‘cis scum’ - and you can look up the definition of that too.
Where does this leave room for cis allies? Telling them to shut up and sit down and follow orders. To not take any initiative to go and fight for trans people without asking permission.
Look, I’m against allies trying to speak for a community they aren’t a part of. But transphobia does affect more than trans people. Just like heterosexism affects more than queer people and sexism affects more than women. So before you jump down the throats of well meaning allies and call them scum, you might want to check yourself. Are you empowering allies and teaching them how to empower others, or are you shutting people down? Are you assuming all cis people are ignorant overpowering idiots or well-meaning allies who want to be educated and want to help. Consider that next time, especially before calling people cis-scum.
(Source: riley-ferretboy-konor, via projectqueer)